1. Forget your past. We are all here because someone gave it to us. Don't create your future by what has already happened in the past. Create what you want, say it, do it and you will have it.

2. To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. When you truly love yourself there is room for others to walk into your heart and you into their hearts and lives.

3. Write ads with good positive information. Talk to them, not at them, no "I" list...."WE" sounds much better. Paint them a picture of how you will share your favorite things, places, foods, etc. with them

4. No picture on your ad? Who are you hiding from? Herpes and HPV people that understand your pain and loneliness? Do you wish to be truly loved or will you still hide?

5. If the person is close by: exchange 2-3 emails, then go to the phone, and just meet already!!! Choose somewhere you both are comfortable. Be safe and responsible for YOUR actions.

6. If distance is a problem, meet at one of the social events or just work it out where both parties are equally satisfied.

7. BE HONEST. They will find out eventually if your picture is 3 years old or you have some important information you forgot to tell them.

8. Understand that if you are sitting at home, watching TV or surfing the Internet, you are not actually out there meeting someone. So start the conversations and stand to meet one new person at least a month!

9. Go into each new meeting with one goal to say hello and gain another FRIEND. If love happens, it happens, if not you might just meet some great people and make new friends. Can you ever have enough friends?

10. Give up those "why I can't" or "what must they should be like concerns." Just meet them. You might be surprised! Are you ideals realistic or where you stay safe and alone?

11. I highly recommend all the social groups and events. You meet real people and there are so many people that you will forget that you ever were alone with your herpes/HPV.

12. Herpes and HPV only win if you let them. Keeping silent is the cage YOU let yourself be in. Others really won't stone you or think what you think about yourself, those are your fears. Remember you are still a wonderful person, so do not allow your virus be all that is you.

13. How you are being is all that they will see. If you speak from the fact they could easily have it or get it, others quickly listen and realize Herpes and HPV are more common than the cold!!! HARD COLD FACTS the true power in gaining back your life and self esteem.

14. Who you are being is what you get in life. Let go of the past and all negativity! Love yourself and forgive those who have been wrong to you.

Hugs and love to you!